the other side of my wife you did not know.

Many people thought my wife and I can have everything we wanted. Financially, they thought we never have problems because they see us dining often to fine restaurants, or having new tech things. But the people only see what we wanted them to see. Of course we won’t post our struggles here abroad. For what? To make our family worry? We can have everything we want, we can eat wherever we want, but it doesn't mean we didn't struggle financially.

 

For one year, My wife and I have been paying our debts. We only earned basic so we didn't have savings at all. Thinking back about those days, I was crying inside because I thought that I wasn't giving my wife all the things she deserved. I got insecure and jealous of people who earn so much. But my wife was my strength. She never demanded on anything. She's contented on what I give. So as a price, we go out often. We dine on her favorite restaurants. Without her, I am nothing.

 

When we were younger, we talked that right after marriage we will have children. But decision changes when you're older. Qatar is not so cheap to raise a child, so although I'm dying inside to have a child right away, I still considered the life we could give him if we will prepare a little. And with that control, I admire my wife. She wants to have kids too, right away, but she was right. We aren’t ready. Although no one is really ready, we have decided to take it one step at a time. I may joke about it and tease her that she doesn’t actually like to have kids, but I know she knows I understand.

 

My wife is very hard-working and very compassionate to people. Her facial features may often misinterpret as "suplada", but deep inside she is very sweet, caring person. Whenever she sees patients waiting for a long time, she will speed up to finish what she's doing to attend to that patient. Even she complains of "over work" and even if I advise her to slow it down, and take one patient at a time, you can’t stop her. And I am proud of that. I am proud how hardworking she is.  So even if she came home early, I will still be the one cooking because I also know that compared to her work, mine is a less toxic.

 

I can't say I'm "makalat" but I can't also say I'm "maayos" when it comes to our stuff. My wife does the cleaning of our room. I refused to clean the room not because I'm lazy, but my wife has a different kind of clean (lol). Even if I already clean, she will re-do. Never disarrange the things she makes because she will know specifically the changes you did. But what good thing about her is that when you need something, even a single receipt, she knows where she placed it. And life is easier with someone who knows where she keeps whatever what her husband needs.

 

People thought she was spoiled with me. Yeah, maybe. But the truth is I am twice as spoiled with her as she is with me. She will drop things she likes just so I can buy what I want. I don't need a new phone but she insisted me to buy a new one. I couldn't have bought that phone without her; I mean at least wait for few more months after iphone 6 was released. I told her last month that I want to buy new Lacoste sneakers. Just 3 days ago, she bought me a pair. A week before that she bought me pants and polo and a week before that she bought me a backpack because I told her a need a bag for gym, days before that I told her I need to buy gym outfits and we bought. Then I teased her about apple TV months before and last month she bought it for me. I am currently teasing her of a car. And, well, let see. :)

 One problem of husbands to their wives is that they tend to become madamot to the guys family. Maybe because they are saving for their future like that, I remembered the judge who wed us, she told us to “give your money to your wife but don’t give all, keep something for yourself too” but it was never a problem for me. She is very generous to my family. When my siblings ask for help, I won’t hesitate to tell my wife and she will say “Ok”. Or for example my older brother asked for her daughter’s dress for graduation, without hesitation, my wife replied. We even paid for my mom’s ticket just for her to have vacation on the same month we’ll have ours. I am forever grateful.

People thought that she doesn’t know how to cook. We’ll they are wrong. She knows how to cook and she cooks very tasty. And I know this year she will cook often now because the cooking range is now electric so it will be easier for her.

The biggest misconception of being beautiful is that they are dumb. Although I know some people that make this misconception true, my wife is not one of them, she is indeed very intelligent. She is like an old wise lady. Sometimes I am surprised of her intelligence. There are things she knows that make me ask myself how she would know that.

And the last thing. People thought that I love her more. That I am the “patay na patay” to her, that I’m the one that always shows my love and shows to public. But believe it or not, she is very much in love with me.  I know, I can feel it and I can be proud of that. At home when we are alone, she would do these crazy things like biting my cheeks, my ears, and my body like I’m a toddler. When I am all over her, she will get mad and tell me to get off her, but when I turned my back on her, she will demand me to hug her. She couldn’t sleep without me hugging her. She will hit me on my back very hard then when she sees I’m hurt, she will kiss me and say “I love you” in a strange voice. She loves pulling my hair, then again when I got hurt she will caress my hair instead. Just last night she accidentally scraps her ring on my elbow and got me a big abrasion. She kissed it at first then she put alcohol to hurt me more, then she will kiss me and say Sorry in a very strange way. She loves me… in a very bizarre yet adorable way.

 

She is not perfect, who is? I have done terrible things to her as well. I hurt her sometimes that she doesn’t even deserve it. She could be anywhere she wants to be. But she is still with me. She chose to be with me. And I am so glad marrying her.