Birthday Wish

Geographically, It is September 10 already in the Philippines and it's a day before my birthday.

People who knew me would know that i have a lot of wish for myself, most of them are material things. But this time i just have one wish. I want to have a HAPPY birthday.

Yearly, I always prepare some small gathering with my friends. I always tell my friends to eat at home first before going to my house cause there is no food. Apparently, yearly my Papa cooks even if i don't give him money to buy. So the "small" gathering becomes a "grand" in a way that food is available for every body. Last year, I have a 2 part birthday celebration. One day for my Real-life friends, another day for my work friends. but you know, it wasn't really the food that matters. It is spending my birthday with my family and friends who i consider a part of me.

I should be happy.  Early this year, I prayed to God not to allow me celebrate my birthday this year in the Philippines. Wish Granted, earlier even. Now it would be the first birthday out of the country and you know, i don't even have plans. I am not even excited cause i will be working on that day. I just missed so much people in the Philippines, one of which is also outside the Philippines.

Can i be happy? Tell me. I'm alone and broke. But i still want to be happy on that day. I really wish to have a happy birthday.

Judgment

This is the best thing we do. Hypocrisy is, if someone denies they judge, or if someone said they never judge.  We have all the opinions in life, and we have all the right to express our opinions, but we sometimes forget that this is, just, our opinions. There is nothing wrong being opinionated, what's wrong is that you express your opinion in people who may have perceived your opinion as fact. Often times, we intentionally express this thoughts so they will become viral. Sometimes, we just don't care at all. It's as if all your opinions were true, and you just want to shove it to people's throat. and guess what's funny, this other people will just accept without a question.

I do not deny that I judge but I learned from experience that it wasn't okay to judge. I was judge a lot of times, and if talking about the past, it was hard dealing with those. I was like physically bullied,  harder even. so just to at least redeem myself, I also do it myself. It is not new to you that i stand for whatever i say, and that i am vocal expressing my opinion. I have practiced that right my whole life yet I always do the safe things like, "ay hindi ko sinabi yan", or "narinig ko lang yan". that was a long time before. Now i am more tactful. cause I am now more responsible of what i say, what i tweet, what i write as status. I still utter my opinion in a way that people will know i am just expressing my own thought.

If we hear a Pinoy speaking in English, and he or she buckles, what do we say. Correct. "Feeling". Lagi natin sinasabi na Pinoy ka naman, bakit di ka magtagalog. or worst, we say they are social climbers. NagEnglish lang social climber na? baka naman nagprapractice lang? tsk. Funny yet true.

If a person lied about living in a fancy place, what do we say? Correct. "Feeling Rich". What if the person just wanted to be accepted and the only way she thought is to pretend. kaya nga may true friends to tell them "you don't need to be the person who we wanted to see, we want to see you". pero wala kasi sa atin yung ganyan eh. We started saying things behind their backs and this thing was never brought out the table.  so we end up, judging that person to be pretender.

If you see a person in a relationship with a person older than him/her, or in a relationship with a foreigner, or not so handsome, what do we usually say. siguro mayaman. Ah so hindi na talaga pwede magkarelasyon sa ibang lahi?o sa pangit, o sa mas matanda? This was really the norm. If we see something not usual to our eyes, we expect negative about it. I have many friends who has a relationship with the things i mentioned above and i accepted them without asking. We never question Love, if you believe on it.

If you see a Man, washing his face before sleeping, putting moisturizer on his face and taking a bath for hours, what do we say? Bading. What if they just don't want to be old-looking, or they're afraid to get mabaho. They say real men don't give a damn about hygiene. Excuse me, that is, if you standardized masculinity for people in the construction (no offense). i have friends who was more banidoso  than their girlfriend. I, too, is semi-banidoso. This was an issue very close to my heart since i was judged too. I struggled getting out of that judgment, but now, i really don't care at all. People can say whatever they say, but as long as your confident of who you are, there's nothing to hide. That's why i never impose any words to  describe people's gender. 

If a person you know who is in a relationship and fell for another,or cheated, or being with another person, what do we say? malandi. What if she was cheated before that's why she fell out of love. or what if crush lang. What if kapatid, pinsan, kamaganak. We have our own relationships and let's not always compare our relationship with others. If they cheated or whatever, who are we to judge. 

If a person criticize another person, what do we say? Insecure.  a huge truth about this is, sometimes, or often times rather, the one criticizing is really insecure. yet, not all who criticize, are insecure. I criticize a lot of people because sometimes, it's fun to do. pwede namang hobby lang diba? 

If nagpost ng  picture nya sa Instagram, or whatever photo uploading applications, and s/he was in Starbucks, Chillis, Applebees, Social Climber na agad? Hindi ba pwedeng attached lang sya masyado sa online applications and gusto nya magpa picture lagi sa mga places na napuntahan nya. Funny thing is, after that thing spread on Facebook, some of my FB friends stopped posing in their Instagram. Natamaan lang? hmmm

If you see a man wearing his DSLR camera on his neck, what do we say? Mayabang. It isn't his fault that he ha a hundred thousand peso worth camera, he just wanted to take pictures, baka birthday nya tama?

Moral lesson of this blog, There are so much things that meet the eye. Learn to appreciate the beauty of the two sides. Hindi ang akala nating tama, yun na ang tama, It's not we thought was the truth, is the truth.

Blog inspiration:

This blog was made after watching John Lloyd Cruz's interview on the Buzz.