They say, The first years will only be the years full of affection, kilig, surprises. THAT IS, when you allowed yourself to JUST BE LIKE THAT. My girlfriend and I will be celebrating our 4th Year Anniversary this Year, and i still feel the Love and kiligs i had when we first met.. Because she don't fail to make me feel good everytime. So is it necessary that guys should only be the ones surprising? NO... In reality, women should be the one doing this things out because your the ones whose mellow dramatics. But then when you really wanted this to work, Both you Guys and Girls should read this.
BASICS
1. setting priorities. When your in a relationship, you can not have everything at the same time. Your barkada's will tell you "nagkasyota ka lang di ka na sumasama sa lakad". Don't feel bad because you just set your priorities. You may not be in all the lakads but if these are true friends, they would understand that growing up you need to set limitations. If you waste your time for playing dota for like 5 hours, Limit that to 3 hours and have the two more hours with her or with something worth.. But then don't deprive them of being with friends ofcourse because they first met before you did.
2. Like Their Likes. When i haven't met her yet, i really don't care of what i wear. I don't care if im baduy or not, but everything changes when i met her. Because she's obsessed with fashion and modeling, and Beauty, i learned to be more caring and grooming myself. I don't usually eat TOFu, but she love it so i Loved it too. It's not about changing who you are. Its a cycle. When you tries to like what they like, your partner will also obliged themselves to like what you like. And when you tries to like what s/he likes, you would know that it wasn't bad after all.But then don't force yourself too much. if you really can't like some sort of her likes, be open to it and i know she'll understand.
3. Befriends The Friends. You don't need to be BEST of Friends to their friends, just acquaint yourself to his/her friends so that you would know what kind of person your partner is. They Say "tell me who your friends are, and i would tell you who you are", for me it works all the time. Another reason: so you wont get jealous when s/he's with friends of the opposite sex.
4. Love his/her Family- loving their family is loving him/her a zillion times. Learn what works in the family. Like is her father not diabetic so i can give him chocolates? or is her mother smokes so you need to take your antamin before going to their home. it's as simple as ABC.
5. Trust. Don't need to elaborate that, everyone has their own way on trusting their loveones. just put in mind that no one would like the feeling untrusted.
SIMPLE YET PROVEN
1. BUILD YOUR DREAMS WITH THEM. When you make your plans with them and include them to it, It will make our partner's feel that we love them. when you don't see your partner as your partner forever, better stop your relationship cause no matter what you do, it wont work. If you envision yourself with your loveone, it only means that your hoping that your love will last longer..
2. GO OUT. No one loves to be stuck in just one place right? make yourself available for dates. Movies, shopping and dinning.
3. DON'T FAIL TO MAKE THEM FEEL GOOD. this is an easy one cause we,pinoys, are naturally mambobolas. when your on bed, stare at her and tell her " you're the prettiest i've known". or when your walking hold her hand and whisper "ang kinis tlaga ng kutis mo". i dont think na mauubusan ka ng sasabihin sa kanya because once you love that person, you can just see beauty. kaya why not pansinin mo lahat ito and tell it to her.
4. LEARN HOW TO FIGHT RIGHT. Fighting and arguments are the crucial part of every relationship. If you knew your the one who caused the pain, Asked forgiveness all the way. If you said sorry, and still your partner is angry, accept all what he has to say, because not because your sorry the issue stop there. Just learn to compromise and accept that you are wrong when you truly admitted you were. But when you know that you need to answer back, then feel free to throw your point of views. but then again, kung sino padin ang nagkamali sya pa din ang mali regardless of reasons why. Compromising is really hard to do, but doing it so will make the relationship stronger..Couples that fight right also find ways to defuse the tension, often with humor.. Naalala ko when we had fight one night, She's going to leave the house, i beg her "wag kang umalis ah" and sabi nya " ano ka ba magtatapon lang ako basura". lol although I'm angry that time, we both laugh and we talked calmy.
5. STOP NAGGING.-walang naidudulot itong maganda. hay alam niyo na yan.
6. Learn to balance your "time with her/him" and "time with you". if you give them the privilege to go out shopping alone, or watching movie alone, He or she will not give you the reason "I NEED TO FIND MYSELF". There are couples that are never apart and there are couples that see each other only on weekends. so when you just see every weekend have that time with him/her. and have the whole week as time for yourself. Remember, that you may be in a relationship but you came out to this world alone. (exception: twins)
7. Learn to cook his/her favorite dish- alam niyo na rin to, next
8. Be the best of Friends. My girlfriend is like my best friend too. She knows what will hurt me and what will make me happy. She knows my likes and give me all of them. She knows my allergies and wont give me all of them (toinks) so the summary of all what i told you is loving them not just because they are our boy/girlfriend but because they are our best friend.
Always remember that we had different ways to keep our relationship stronger., You both may not be hopeless romantic etc, but what matter is you both love the way you love each other and everythings gonna be all right..
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